I see relationship as a Yin-Yang thing.
Don’t get your hope too high when you’re in search for Mr./Miss Right.. Just use your head, intuition and follow your heart. The one you want isn’t always the one you need..or vice versa. Ooh, and don’t forget one thing! Eventually, TIME (not that TIME magazine.. hehe) will tell.
Usually people always have their own standard or criteria when it comes to what kind of man/woman they want to be their soulmate [by the way, is there such thing as a "SOULMATE"? I personally always think this way: Your soulmate is yourself. But feel free to correct me if I'm wrong :D]. Well, me myself have some standard. I want an honest and loyal man with a pleasant personality, funny, bla..bla..bla. I want to have a meaningful and a smooth relationship. It’s too much and maybe it does sound too naive, I know. But hey, what’s wrong with that, right?
Udah banyak gue denger orang yang bilang gini sama gue, waktu gue tanya "loe pingin pasangan loe seperti apa sih?" Jawabannya macem-macem.. but they have one similarity.. mereka pingin punya pasangan yang SEJIWA sama mereka supaya hubungan mereka nggak banyak nemuin kerikil-kerikil tajam [hayah, bahasanya!]. Terus gue jadi mikir, "Hmm.. enak juga mungkin kalo nemuin pasangan yang sejiwa". Tapi..masa iya sih?? Sejiwa itu kan berarti semuanya serba sama. Punya hobi yang sama, cara pandang yang sama, mungkin juga sampe tingkat emosi yang sama dan lain-lain. Lalu tiba-tiba, gue berubah pikiran. Apa enaknya punya hubungan yg serba sama kaya itu? Betapa dunia loe nggak akan berkembang, karena loe akan berada di satu cubicle yang itu-itu saja. If you like Jazz, and he/she likes metal, like it or not, sooner or later, you’ll find metal ada enaknya juga kan? Dan loe akan merasa ada sesuatu yang baru dalam dunia loe 
I met this guy 8 years ago. He’s different from any guys I’ve been with. Of course his coolness attracted me of course, I like a cool guy. But he’s different! He likes art, he’s into architecture, he has this coldness towards women, he’s a family oriented man, he’s not a ‘bad boy’ at all. FYI, I have things for ‘bad boy’ [:P]. Bottomline, he wasn’t my type at first. So we’re friends for about 1 year. Tapi lama-lama, kok gue tertarik sama dia ya? As time passed by, I had this huge crush on him but I kept it for myself considering I didn’t want to ruin our friendship. I guess time had a different opinion. On june 1999, we got toghether..until now.
I’ve learnt one thing from our 7 years relationship. Wait! No, not one thing, but a lot of things! I have to admit that we’ve experienced the good and the bad..berantem kecil-kecilan sampe berantem yang buesaaar banget! Dan semua bermula dari perbedaan yang kita punya. I tried to change him and maybe, he did the same thing to me too. And now I realize that it’s okay to be different from your partner or spouse, but don’t let any difference ruin everything.
Perbedaan nggak selamanya harus dilebur jadi satu dan dipaksakan untuk menjadi satu kesamaan. Perbedaan seharusnya dibuat supaya bisa berjalan bersama in harmony. But don’t let your ego mess things up! That’s a big No-No! Sebuah hubungan yang baik adalah hubungan dimana kedua belah pihak bisa menerima semua kelebihan [of course lah!], kekurangan dan segala perbedaan yang pasti ada. Justru manusia itu unik karena memiliki perbedaan satu sama lain. Hubungan yang baik adalah hubungan dimana perbedaan-perbedaan itu justru bisa saling melengkapi satu sama lain. Merubah sesuatu menjadi lebih baik adalah suatu usaha yang baik selama dilakukan dengan niat yang baik dan dengan cara yang baik plus dikomunikasikan dengan baik juga. Karena in a relationship we don’t think as one person, but we think for two different person. Hubungan yang baik adalah hubungan yang seimbang.. nggak ada yang setiap waktu lebih dominan dari yang lain. I don’t see domination as a bad thing as long as you know when to be dominant and not to become too dominant.
Yin-Yang is all about balance. Relationship is a Yin-Yang.. it compliments one to another. Well, that’s my opinion.
